Letters – April 2008
In the February issue, which we dubbed the Singles Issue, we listed the city's best places to meet people and offered a primer on how to date the not-so-elusive "cougar." The issue also included a story on the challenges facing the Charlotte Symphony.
Don't Stop the Music
A line on the cover posed this question: "Do we really need a symphony?" In his note to readers that kicked off the issue, Editor Richard Thurmond answered, "Yes," and offered a few ideas to make symphony concerts more appealing to the casual music fan. Some symphonic music fans had other ideas:
I found the line on the cover of your magazine disturbing. I respect anyone's taste in music. I have sons who played in rock bands, but only one who enjoys symphonic music. My daughter would never go near the symphony.
I am a musician and I am a snob about rock-and-roll. All the bands sound just the same to me, and I can't understand how anyone can decide one is better than the other. So it works both ways. So in answer to your cover question: yes, we need the symphony. It is balm to our souls, and you can't ask for anything greater than that.
First of all, multimedia classical music already exists. It's called opera. Second, you don't have to like classical or symphonic music. Really, it's okay. Go to clubs. Support local bands. Yodel. Learn to play a thumb piano. The point is: love your music, enjoy your music, feel your music, and maybe learn from it. I want to visualize my own thing when I hear music of whatever variety, not watch slides and hear added sound effects because you don't get it. I've already done psychedelic. If you don't mess with my music, I won't mess with yours.
Thank you so much for the article on local organic food suppliers ("In Search of Organic Grocers," Life/Style, by Bridget Herman). Those were the stores that took the risk and pioneered food choices that have been important to many people for years. Personally, I'm thrilled that a growing number of people have embraced organic foods and other components of a less-chemical lifestyle.
I enjoyed the article titled "Cougar Hunting" (by Mike Giglio). It seemed, however, as though it came from a young man on the prowl himself, simply looking for some action, specifically wanting to prostitute himself. I do suppose this is the common young-male mentality, which validates why we cougars would never consider actually engaging in a long-term relationship with someone half our age. That being said, I will say that most women who are confident, older, and take care of themselves are still very attractive, and not just to younger men.
I am a forty-year-old, six-foot personal trainer at a local gym. And though I am happily married with two children, I enjoy getting out with the girls, dancing, and being hit on. Why? Because it is fun at forty to know that you "still got it." Yes, I dance in circles with my pack of "wild girls," but we take care not to let anyone do anything stupid, ruining what has taken years to establish in both life and love.
The cougar who actually goes home with a young stud is usually pissed off that her husband doesn't cherish what a powerful woman he has, or she is single, coming off some heartache or divorce. In addition, she could just be angry at the world, wanting to screw everyone for what the world has done to her. Regardless, I find it cheap to glamorize the taking advantage of some young guy who doesn't know yet how to be a man, or a questionably mature woman who has yet to work through her pain and suffering.
In the article titled "Ear Peace" in The BUZZ section, we mixed up the names of the Jablokov brothers in the caption. Igor is on the right and Victor is on the left.
We regret the error.
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